July 2, 2013

Ok so I am dating my posts because for the next little bit. I am goin to be using this as more of a diary. Today I got up and started on my schedule. Now we r bathed and dressed waiting on the baby to wake up. But I believe. I will just wake him up and leave. I have a few things in town to take care of. I need to go to a doc appointment and transfer all vechicles to my name. Caps to make and dog to pick up. Also shipping to do. And for my salinity. I am wanting to pick back up on my schedule or routine soon as get home. So off we go. Everyone is working so today I will be taking both kids with me. Wish me luck

30 day update

It has been one month since I lost my husband.  Life is still so out of wack. But I am finally getting serious about gettingy family back on schedule. There is alot more appointments and errands to run, but I think I am getting my mind to focus more on what has to be done. Hopefully soon all the legal end of this will be over and we can begin to heal more emotionally. We r in grief Counceling. And spending more time with extended family. May have an update again soon.  I can tell u this it is lonely to be widowed especially from a tragic accident like this

2 week update

It has been 2weeks since my husband has passed.  I am so lost  This has been one of the hardest experences I have ever been through..Everything happened so fast I feel I didn't get to grieve  And now it is all on my shoulders to get things lined out....I have renewed my relationship with my mom and she has been a great babysitter and shoulder to cry on....

I have been given more than I could expect for the kids and myself  clothes money cleaning supplies toys and diapers.  You name it someone has given it to us.....We are blessed with caring friends and family.....But I would give it all up to have my man by my side...

THE WORST DAY EVER

Last night my husband Chris Prater was out on his street bike for the first time in months.  The police said he went to pass a four wheeler and never hit his breaks before he hit a tree.    He passed away before he could be air lifted to the hospital.   He was only 29.   I am so lost.  Please pray for me, and our children.   They will never know what a great man he is.  Our son will never even have memories.    

Well yesterday went out with a boom,  I was chasing my daughter around our house when out of no were was this very big mud puddle.   Do I need to say it?   Yes people I fell.  My hand is swelled.  My previous broken fingers are huge.  And a monster bruise on my shoulder.  And to add insult to injury, a car went by and laughed, not bothering to hide the fact I was the joke.  

On a more productive note I did revamp my mornting routine.  I am tweeking it now so by Monday I should have a finished product.  I also have been working on the weekly aspect of my SHE cards.   I have decided Flylady has her Zones one for each week.   I know have Zones for each day.  I can clean whatever I feel needs done in my home on that day.  Monday- Friday I left the zone titles and rooms the same,  I just made a list of chores and started zone 1 on Monday ending with zone 5 on Friday.   I am adding the Saturday's my husbands works for any general overall home tasks.  

Now today I was on track up at 4:30.  Earlier than needed thanks to my dear son.   I was flying through my routines and taking breaks to write out my lists, planning on being able to start the begining clean up of all my other time frames on my SHE card dailies, when my Husband shows up unexpected for lunch.  That devoured an hour, one I am glad we got to share.  He is working late trying to catch up bills and put back a little extra for vacation.   As soon as I kissed him good-bye and closed the door I turned around to see the washing machine had over flowed all over the kitchen.  We have an older home so the Laundry room is in with the kitchen.   I turned the water lines off and texted my hubby.  That was an unwanted mess and probably expense.  It ate a good hour and half of my day moving everything to clean up the water and trying to wring out the laundry by hand.  Then finding a good enough make do clothes line.  I had a load in the dryer and the sheets were way to wet to put in the dryer still.

No fear I am staying upbeat.  I am done with my morng routine.  Now at 5:35 at night.   I will catch another episode of Desprerate Housewives on Netflix.  I am up to Season 2 episode 15 if you count the time I have left it playing to finish a task I was in the middle of.   Then it is the start of dinner and some time trying out my new porch swing Chris hung up on the apartment deck last night.  We have a newer one  a frined gave us for the house front porch but the more I look at it the more I like my simple 2 wooden rocking chairs and little green table.   Anyway, I will work hard to finish my Zone lists if nothing else tonight. 

To be honest I have went with out suffecient sleep until I am ready to curl up in a ball and nap for days.  It will be a long weekend, Hubby is on call so will work Saturday and to be honest I have been ready to go anywhere away from home  since Tuesday.      

Good luck everyone.  Hope you have a less stressful night than me.  I am gonna tell you if I did not have all the CHAOS of my family I would be a lost puppy.        

If you know any sites that may have good tips or advice please post a link or email them to me ......Night alll

Hump Day Blues

Since my son has been teething I am getting less sleep than I have in years.....Needless to say I am sitting here typing with one eye open.   I am nodding off to dream land.

The day started out on track.  I got so much off my to do list and my routine was on fire!  Then I just got hit by the sleepy bug.   I do not like this.  There is a sink full of bottles.  My routine is over.  I cannot tell you were I left off or where I should start back.   I really dread days like this, it makes me feel like I am playing catch up all week.  So alll I know to do is hunker down and really focus on getting through my routine and moving my to do's to tomorrow.  

Which means I will be behind on daily, and other chores.  But my house looks like the toybox and  closets threw up and I have bottles form last night.

I need to find a blog planner and a diy planner I can use to help keep me more on task.   I love the SHE box.  It is truely helping track repeating tasks.   I ran out of cards long ago so have been recycling paper.  I am cutting it into 3x5 size and writing on the blank side.    I hope I can give you examples shortly.   

Maybe more positive tomorrow.   I do have a task or two that we all could probably focus on for tomorrow.  One of my MIT is to clean the garage door and windows.   We havent since moving in.  I still need to do my windows but think I will wait till after vacation.   Now  another thing is the linen closet.   For more info check out, theorganizedhousewife.com.           Have fun and I will try to post before and after pics of both.    Would love to see yours.   

As much as I love being able to share my experiences and thoughts, I am still so confussed on how I should be or can be using blogger to post.   I am so unfamialar with the settings and how to work them to my benefit.   

If you cannot tell I am in a very frustrated mood.  And I seem to be taking it out on all.  Coltin turned 7 months old Saturday.  We had a busy weekend.  Went to my husband's father's grave, and a cookout at my sis-in-law.  Took our daughter fourwheeling and went to a civil war re-enactment.  Then I tried to stay up late with Hubby for alone time. Planted a few tomato plants.  And some small home repairs.  And lasst night the baby started teething again.  So no sleep.   I am way behind on my schedule or routine.  

So my biggest concern is cleaning the garage door and windows after my HANDS friend leaves.  She is late.   Then trying to get some paint off the siding out back and water the plants.  I am also wanting to at least get halfway through my mid day routine and work on my evening, before bed and night routines.  I am still using my SHE box and love it.    For example, the card I am on now say Daily in the top left corner. Morning in the middle and 20-30 Min on the right.   All that is written on this card is Work on Blog.   Now the card that starts my box is set up about the same no time it says Rise and Shine!  Get up at 5:00  If you read my morning or mid day routines you wills see most of these cards.  I have made a few changes or moved spots with some.  I have also added some steps.  I have put all the cards I am not getting to in the back.  I have decided that if by the end of the year I am not using them it is time to toss them.   My perfectionist is in an uproar over this.   She made those cards and she knows one day we will need them.   Her name shall be Perfect Peggy!.   Do you have a perfect or slacker alter ego?  My slacker side is Sorry Sammie.   Post how you overcome them and your nicknames for them.      I am interested in your view on perfectionism.   

Family and Personal Goals

Last night I stumbled upon homaking101.com, again.  I really liked this site when I began my long and over researched journey on home and binder sites.   One of the first things she tells us to do is make a list of family and individual goals for all.   I really liked this.  It makes sense.  How can I accomplish anything without a set goal.  You can't have a story without an ending.  

So today I took out a couple sheets of pretty paper left over and wrote out my daughters and my goals for the rest of the year.  And since started so late I am fine carrying them over.  Tonight I will get my husband to sit down and try to make the family and our couple goals as a well couple.  Since it is a long weekend it may be Monday before I share the outcome and my list with you.  

If you have any interesting goals or tips to share please do so. 

As always thanks for the continued support.   I am so glad for each visit.   Please leave a link to your blog or site so I can see your tips and interests.  Love always
Happy Memorial Day.......N

Nexus Blues

Not sure if I told wveryone but, I got my Nexus back monday morning.  I was estatic  Today is Friday and I am already sending it back.  Boo-Hoo.  I am so disappointed.  Asus has had my tablet more than I have.  When it works it is wonderful.  So since this is the third time, why cat they just send me a new one?  I am tired of being out $6.00 every thime this happens and being done a device and what happens when my warrenty ends?   I am loosing sleep over this.

My son got his first tooth and I took thephoto on my Nexus now it will be gone.  That sucks.  Knowing that everything I put time into downloading or adding is gone.  All my work, games, and saved sites.  I am so fed up with this.   I am gonna get off here before I say things not polite.   I hope no one else has such crappy luck with there device.   If so how did you solve the issue?   

thusday chaos

Today started and is ending bad.  Got up late. Hubby left late. Made me late for sons well baby.   He got 4 boosters and a drink as we call it. He also got his first real tooth. Raining hard here.  Haven't got anything done. And now hubby is home. So gonna watch a movie and forget it awhile. Try to pick up tomorrow.     How was your day? Post comments on how you deal with the stresses of life.

Untitled

Not sure what to title this or if I will.  I think I want to take today to do a little get to know me article.  It seems to slip through my mind that all anyone reading this gets is words on the internet.  You do not know me, maybe you have no desire to.  But to bad, you will have to skip this post.
There are areas of my life I will skim over.  If you want to know ,ore you will have to ask.  Other are moments I am proud of many I am would make you very upset and ashamed you ever visited in the first place.  I may have to turn this into a series or overly long story.


So as you know my name is Norma.  I was born early one April morning 32 years ago.  Wow cannot believe I have made it!  Neither of my parents would have been nominated for best parent.  Loving maybe my mother in her own way, but far from nurturing.  Here I will skim some.  Mother is money hungry, alcoholic, who would leave me with my aunt (a great woman) or my father at the drop of a feather.  My father is a drug addict/dealer.  He was very sexually abusive to me and allowed an older cousion to do alot that i have nightmares over still.  See where this is going?

They divorced finally when I was 12.  My mom met my stepdad .  He is my true father, I ,miss him so much.  He passed away of cancer 2 years ago.  Due to my mother we were not on the best terms.  I have regrets.   I ended up pregnant at 15.  Got married and had 2 children.  To get the money my mother let my ex mother in law take custody of them and leave her as guardian.   Enter my start on drugs and a downward life.  

Ended up having 2 more children by the same man. My aunt has them.   Now that is my biggest heartache. Missing those children grow up and knowing how they must feel.  I know how my parents shirt me.

The man I clam to be my husband is in every since of the word but legal.  I cannot afford to get divorcesd from my ex and cannot find him to sign anything.  Chris an I have 2 beautiful children.  I love them but it is bittersweet.  I am off drugs thanks to suboxone.  I am now working on getting off that.

Since the last 26 years of my life were a mess and all my parents taught me are skills I don't like knowing,  I am so wanting to be the best mom and partner to my man.  So I am obsessed with any way to help me.  I tend to find things I like and lose interest fast.  But making list and journaling have been a constant.

Hope this helps with explaining me a little.  Please send or post any questions or suggestions.  Maybe I can get back to my previous talk of home control journal and my schedule.  I am still adjusting my SHE card system. Will keep updated.  Thanks for all the interest you have had in my blog.  One day someone maybe how me how to use it to be more appealing and how to use all the features avaible to me.     See ya all next time.

Tuesday thoughts

Lets talk a little more on the SHE card box.  I love the consecpt of having all the things wrote out and even if just for a certian day, month, or season I can slip it into that slot.  But I am thinking I am over filling some of my things.  This weekend I am going to reorder rewrite and change some of my cards.   I will post some examples of those then.  

My husband finally acknowledged all the work I do last night.  I think he took a look at my box and the fact I did all my chores (or most) and helped with grass cutting made a huge supper and fried him fore potatoes amazed him.  He always said I was lazy. 

I wanted to write more, will try later.  The baby is crying and I cut my leg on the dog chain and am now bleeding again.

Love the 400 views.  Please give me some topics or feedback so I can make this easier.

back in the saddle

Sorry for the disapperarance.  I have been so busy here and trying out a new schedule routine.  I forgot to write.   I will do better.   I have been trying out the SHE card system and have to say so far great!  and it will save alot of room in my binder.   I am so excited!

I do beleive we will be going on vacaation this year.  We had talked about staying home, but my sis-in-law is taking my niece for for bday to Splash Country in Tennessee and we will go for that with them and probably stay back for 2 days in Dollywood.   I will give full details when they are concrete.
Were and what do you do on your vacations?  Do you go with the flow or like to plan to the minute?  And what is your packing stye?  Do you have a list or do you have a site with a good list for packing?  This will be the first vacation with a baby under 1  He will be almost 8 months so I am nervous. 

Just a fast note.

Hopefully I will be on time a little better tomorrow.  But the baby is teething and not happy and I have my friend from HANDS on her way so will get a good post off this week please be patient with me   Thanks for the 330 readers....

My Favorite Mothr's Day

this has been one of my favorite, if not my favorite Mother's Day!  It all started Saturday.  We were suppose to take the kids to my sis-in-law but hubby changed his mind.  I have had 2 kids everyday and night for 6 months!!  I almost beat him to pulp.  LOl  We ended up going to Musle on Main and the Burnout in town.  We met up with my sis-in-law and went to a Mexican resturant after.  On the way out Hubby tells her just to take the kiddos.   YEAH!!!!!!  I really jumped for joy.   We went to Wal-mart for the groceries and neccesities.  After the hour drive home and putting away 2 grocery carts of stuff it was 5A.M. 

Exhausted, I feel in bed beside my hubby for the first time since Valentines Day.   I slept so good.  Then Sunday began at 10:30 A.M.  I haven't slept that late in a year.  I cleaned out my daughter's closet.  Hubby done some pest control.  Somehow spiders and ants think this is their home.  After we spent 3 hours cleaning out the other half of the small garage.  There is still the previous owners junk stuck everywhere.  They must have sold us the house in Feburary (My Valentine's Present)  and just left all they owned.  I mean even wet clothes in washer/dryer,  dishes in sink, cabinet and closets packed and both garages and both sheds.   And they were not big on cleaning

So when we were done we looked like coal miners.  We washed off, rode the four-wheeler (ATV) and went to pick up the kids.  I swear a stranger took over my daughter she is so nice and well behaved now.    Hubs made Lasagana.  And bathed the kids.   

This is one for the memory book for sure.   The BEST PRESENT, right behind my kids, husband, and our house.    Hope everyone else had as good a day.

Tomorrow I will do my best to post some more of my routines:  I am behind as always.  But I am sticking with my Body Electric and Bootcamp 14.   I weighed myself at Wal-mart 140!   I weighed 142 when had my son.  I am normally 120-125.  I wanted to cry.    I so need to learn eating control.  

Friday Finally Here!!

Yesterday ended better than it began.   Oh wait let me update on morning routine.  I am now finished with it at 2:25 .  But I woke up late and my son is teething bad...... 
Okay back to Yesterday,  hubby and the work crew came home early and ran new cable and internet lines all through the house.  So I did not get anything done.  It is okay because we went to a small restaurant close by for supper and took the kids to the park and thankfully there was a girl my daughters age to play with.  We then got a few groceries and back home.
Now back at home and the kids fast asleep, I began reading my husband a paper I found about Picies, his sign.  It was dead on!  We had a good laugh.
Today we both got up late so I feel good to be this far along.   Monday I will post my Afternoon Routine,  well my outline I haven't got there yet.  I am doing a little better about internet and did some schooling with my daughter.  Sorry to cut this short but my son is howling.  Pray his tooth comes in soon so he and mommy can see some relief........Happy Mothers Day  to alll

depression Be Gone

How the hell do I snap out of this?  I started a text arurement wtih my husband today while he was at work!  What if he had fell off one of the power poles he climbs or been driving,  and?....You get the picture.  My daughter is still bed wetting nad I am so down I have let my routines be lost to a messy home. 

Today I have cried myself into a headache..  My predictable easy days have been relpaced by chaos.  I am swearing off the internet and getting off my sorry ass.   Time to change my life.  I am not going down this road of CHAOS.  But then it hits me, no one will ever see it and I never get away from it and it will happen again so why bother?  For half my calm self back that is why.   I want to make a challenge out of this.  Lets post our morning routine and give a titme we would like to have it finished by and for the next week till Friday we will work on that!  So here goes since it is 1:40 p.m and I am at the end of my morning list tomorrow my goal will be to be finished with it by 1p.m.  and then I will move up from there and then when I can complete it by 10a.m. I will add in the rest...

Don't get me wrong, the kids will still bath, and dinner will be cooked.  But I will not keep this up.   I am also going to start standing up for what I need in this relationship with my husband..  I am not his mom or anyone else he wants to compare me to.  I am ME  and damn it,  I will start meeting some of my own life goals!  I just don't know if we will make it through this....  We are so close and agree on so many things but in the major life decissions we are both at different places with different goals and dreams.   How can I make it work so we stay together and not be misserable?

UPDATE:  I am also frustrated on how a 4 yr old with a good track record of dry nights suddenly goes beserk she wet her bed the couch and recliner last night.  MY washer is getting used if nothing else.   I believe it is a case of jealous and her dad and I having so much trouble right now.  Hope life does a 180 soon. 

My oh My what a week!

Update:  No accidents for my daughter yesterday, but last night she was up until 2a.m. nd between then and 5a.m. when I got back up to have a few minutes alone she wet the bed.  I got hateful with my husband last night.  I snapped something about waking me up just to turn a light off and if he wanted to stay up till midnight that he could.  All I wanted was to sleep when I could. So after Kenzie not sleeping good and the baby teething and getting a head cold and crying on and off all night, he woke up sparring for a fight. 

Dont like when that happens at all.   I feel like I can't say anything back because what if he gets hurt or worse.  And I would automattically feel blamed for being the reason he is distracted.  It has taken 5 years for me to learn to hold my tounge, nod my head, and agree. 

So this morning Yes I shrink all your work shirts but no one eles?  How when we use the same washer, dryer, and detergent?  I use Purex  not to cheap but not the "Good Stuff"   I am a Gain fan.  Somehow I also ruin his shirts.  He wears the same shirt 2-3 days especially in the winter when he has coveralls on.  So when he is in his shirt, and gets something on it and doesnt wash it for 3 or more days and doesnt put it where I can see the stain to treat it,  I dont have much to do.  I use Goop hand cleaner from the Dollar Tree on stains.  Works good if it is fresh. 

But this is my favorite!  I purposelly wake the kids up so HE can't sleep!!  HA HA  That is only hurting me.  He grumbles and is straight back out.  

One of the things I have been interested in is the Proverbs31 woman/wife.  I dont think I can really meet all those goals  But  I would like to find out more.     But not much on how or where to begin.  

What is going on?

Yeah so any of you who have seen my Morning Routine know that I exercise with Body Electric on the KET/PBS channel, Yesterday I entered to win BootCamp14 from No Excuses with John Roche.  Any Flybabies out there have heard of him.  I actually won one of the 100 giveaway spots!!  So this morning I went through the email and saved what needed to use on the computer and wrote out what I thought would benefit me the most on paper.   I also completed the Monday workout and will try the Tuesday when it airs.  The perfectionist in me will not let me start where I am.  Thanks to the boot camp I also have my body measurements and am excited to go....

  When I told my husband all excited wanting to ask him to join me, I got a hateful all that will get you is a virus I am not fooling with it.  I am noticing lately he is rude to me unless he wants something and always puts down or dismisses my ideas or anything I mention wanting to try or accomplish. 

So now I have that added to the fact I feel like a failure stuck at 32.  My daughter wet the bed again last night.  But she is working with me on manners and listening, and will until her dad gets home.  Then all bets are off.  When trying to get her to get ready for bed last night, (brush teeth, floss, potty, and brush hair),  I really screamed at her!!!  Very loud, Very in her face.  Oh how fast I was to regret it and feel shame.  To late to take it back.  She hit me after yelling and fighting me for 10 minutes.  I broke.  Hubby isn't much help.  I think he is afraid of hurting her feelings or just wasn't disciplined and now he doesn't know how.

He says he wants her to do better than us.  All I see is her acting and being like I was.  I Do No under no circumstances want that.  How to nip this in the butt now?  I have been reading up on it.  I do not see how it will work if I am the only one trying to make a change.  

Now when Hubby came home, he caught Kenzie squatting pants and undies down in the babies room taking a good ol pee!  He laughs and tells me to clean it up.  Nothing said or done.  I spent the next 25 min trying to get her to talk to me about it.  

Am I crazy to try?  How do I deal with this?  And can anyone tell me how to get Super Nanny 911? 

On a happier note, I will try to post my After Lunch/Afternoon Routine this week....I finally got the computer wires tamed.  It was a jungle behind my desk.  I also almost have all that I want from the email I mentioned yesterday. 

Truly I feel blessed and special so many have stopped by to read my blog.  But I am beginning to feel alone on here also..  I ask for help and try to give what I have to offer.  Isn't much, I know I am a mess right now.  But for this to work just like my marriage it needs to be a sharing relationship.  I need to here from all of you.  Questions how to help you, how to make this better for you.  I also NEED to see responses to my questions.  I know I am not alone in this.  To many SAHMs out there.  So lest get some feedback and interaction going.  It will do both of us good.  Communication is the key to all relatioships. 

Again thanks to the 230 for stopping in.....Glad I got your attention, now you have mine.  Tell or ask anything.  
Love Always......................................N

Monday Maddness and Wet Nights

Where to start?  I guess I should go back to how this turned into a Mad Monday.   My 4 year old daughter has been potty trained since she was 20 months old.  She never wore pull ups or goodnites.  Went straight to painties one day and never looked back.  Yeah so easy!  Never had an accident after that unless she was sick, ex.  phuenomonia, bronchithis, or UTI.  Since Tuesday last week she has been wetting the bed once or twice a night.  Also day time accidents.  Never been a problem, like I said.  And the few times before this happened she was totally embarassed and cried.  Begged not to tell on her.  This is different.  She is vaugely saying she is burning and the potty hurts her?  But only after prompting.  If left for her to answer she simply said she forgot, couldn't make it, or she didn't remember.  

Now onto today.  While my husband was out on call Sunday, I stumbled onto an email from Taylor Hewlett.  She is on Youtube.com  I had prevously asked about her Home Management Binder Pages.  In response she sent me copies of some of her pages she had made.  Due to the lack of ink for the printer the email was saved to a folder and forgotten.  Since on my quest to update, use it or move it or lose it, binder Redo, I decided most of what she sent I could just write out for now.  In the mix she sent a copy of her Household Rules.  I have to say I loved it.  Simple and things I need to work on with my family.  So I wrote out the ones that applied to my family and read it to everyone.  This morning after breakfast I re-read it to my daughter.  She repeated it back almost word for word with her take on what it means.  Easy as Pie?  I thought But no. 

After wetting the couch were she fell asleep last night, and Monday a hair wash day anyway, when I told her to let me wash her hair it turned into a 4 hour fight.  Ended with me putting her clothes on and her crying over a picture of us at the Titanic in Tennessee on vacation last year.  Told me she wanted to be a baby or go back to just us 3.  NO BABY!

I am totally unprepaired for this and do not know anyone to ask for help.  My sis-in-law only has one girl.  Could the bed wetting be a form of rebellion?  And how do I make her feel more importat and show her I still love her?  I always try to include her.  But we butt heads alot.  Over telling me NO, hitting, and not PUPA of toys.  I am lost and do not what my relationship with my daughter to end badly.   I am going to stick to play time and chores.  And hopefully with adding The Rules and really using Time Out some things will improve.  Please help salvage my relationship with my girl before it is to late.      Asking-on hands and knees please give advise......My tears are still rolling down my cheek.

After Breakfast/Mid Day Routine

Okay girls (and guys?)  here it is my Mid Day Routine and today my goal is to get halfway through it.  I got a late start.  Depressed yesterday and couldn't sleep last night watched late night tv.  Okay below is the draft of my Mid Day Routine:

• Clean up breakfast dishes
• Throw out scraps
• Keagles
• Load the Dishwasher (or wash dishes in my case)
• Shine the sink
• Lotion Hands
• Unload the dishes
• Towel dry dishes
• Put up Dishes
• Wipe off Kitchen counters
• Thaw anything needed for dinner
• 5 minute pick up
• Switch laundry
• Room time/Pla alone 30-45 minutes (more for my daughter for now)
• Make calls
• 15 minutes daily cleaning mission (flylady.net)
• 15 minutes weekly cleaning assignment (will go into more detail when post my weekly lists)
• Play together (ex. reading time, hippo tent or fort, boredom busters form abowlfulloflemons.com?, list of ideas I am making)
• Wash and lotion hands
• Fix lunch - Baby get a bottle and cereal by 12:00 p.m. (i wish)
• Change baby's diaper
• Set the kitchen table
• Feed the family  - including yourself
• Drink Juice (lised for all)
• Kenzie chores - Kids's challenge from flylady
• Daily Reminder (flylady)
• Put pop, water, juice, tea in refrigerator
• 4 week declutter challenge (will find link)
• Weekly Celaning checklist (based on flylady will post later)
• Get mail and newspaper - scan for books on the way trash junk
• Daily pick up
• Feed and water the critters (cat and dog- daughter want a hamster)
• Laundry
• Wipe out Bathroom sink
• 2 Minute Hot Spot (Flylady idea)
• Morning Meditation
• Kids Bible Study (usually read children's bible working on adding goodmorninggirls.com study)
• Drink water (listed for all)
• Zone work for 15 minutes (flylady)
• clean Kitchen table
• Serenity prayer, A prayer for patience, Guildpost
• Negative Voice Tracker (From Flylady- I write down negetive/bad thoughts and turn into a positive)
• A-F Letter find with Kenzie
• Vlog- youtube.com
• Pair and line all shoes at entryways (try to keep all shoes but hubby's work boots in rooms)
• Clean under Living room recliner
• Dust
• Clean all glass in the house
• 5 minute room resuce
• Pick up Living room and vacuum
• Mop the kitchen floor
• Play kitchen with kds
• Take a break
• Skim a magazine
• Reboot laundry
• 2 minute hot spot
• 30 minute room resuce
• Clear desk
• File/Put away papers
• FlyLady FAQ's if need to know something
• 13 ways to tell husband you love him (for reminder to tell him and inspiration on how to)
• Wipe off outside table
• Kenzie watch TV
• Baby Steps (flylady)
• Ride Bicycles
• Run/Race/Tag with Kids
• Coltin (baby) nap
• 10 minutes lift weights
• Dust all furniture and window sills

I have not gotten all the way yet. Like i said it is alot and may need adjusting.  This is just an idea and some tasks get completed in other steps but just in case forgotten or missed, I will get to it again.  Also I do mop the kitchen alot it is a high traffic area.  I will update when get all the way through.  Next I will try to get my After Lunch or Afternoon Routine up.    Good luck and please share your daily routines, weekly etc.  Or just comment or give advice I can use .   

Thanks to the 207 views.   Now lets try to make it 220!  Hope you all keep comming back.....Bless you and again I am excited to see you back. 

Depressed Thrusday

It is almost 6p.m. here and unlike normal I am just not getting to post anything.  Somehow we all got up early, and I am no were near done with my morning routine.  But tomorrow I do want to post my Mid Day Routine.  I ended up sleeping all evening.  I just felt so overwhelmed for no reason.  I had made some progress on my household filing.  I will show my outline later.  I was ahead of schedule and then boom like a brick wall, DEPRESSED. The weight of the world was on my shoulders and I didn't care about anything but getting away from it.  I have been struggling with these feelings again on and off since we got moved in.  Could it be postpartum?

We even had appointments since today was Errand Day.  I never even bothered to call and change them.  How do I climb out of this?  I really want help without having to deal with medicine.  I just dont have any support to help me.  I feel stuck.  Like I am not going anywhere.  All the problems I had 7 years ago (except drugs)  I have now.  Really weighs me down.  And I know Chris loves and cares for me but he doesn't do things in a productive order alot.  


Sorry about that rant!  On a more positive note I have gotten 198 views!!!  Wow I love that I truely needed to know someone out there wanted to read any of my ramblings.  Please start leaving me some comments and any helpful tips etc. you have.  If you can't tell I need the encouragement in a strong way. Just mainly the regular SAHM  drama....LOL  Thanks to everyone for stopping enouth to read my posts.    I will get up and get to my blog earlier tomorrow...Seeing so many viewers has helped inspire me to continue on with this.....Love to all  N

Day after my birthday - May 1st A New Month

Yesterday I started a post as I tried to work on salvaging my day.  While I was getting the baby to sleep, my so courious daughter combined, hand sainitizer, toothpaste, denture cleaner, mouthwash, Suave mouse, and hand soap!  There was such a mess and it took her less than 5 minutes.  She told me she was pooping.   Then for the second time in 2 weeks she got stuck in her doll highchair witih one of Coltin's bibs on.  I laid him on the bed to try to pry her out,  he looks at her and smiles, she knocks him off the bed!  She thought he was laughing at her.   What am I to do with her?  After that I just stopped trying to document my day.

But I did make tacos for supper and my own butter chocolate cake with vanilla icing (I did not pick)  And my wonderful husband came home with a beautiful ankle bracelet and letter he wrote.  He took his lunch and made a trip just to get that for me.  He is not good at suprises.  He always tells on his self.  But I must say I was supprised....  And the day ended with hubby seeing me changing into my gown (alone time after children went to sleep), asking me "Are you still doing your exercises?  I never noticed it before.  I thought you were parinoid but, you have put on a couple of pounds"  Tears swelled up automatically.  I only weigh 130-135 pounds.  But I used to weigh 115 or less.  So I am struggling with not eating everything all day long.  It is a loosing  battle I now see.   

All in all I had a nice day.  A few messes I left out, like the lipstick and the strawberries Oh and Chris tied the barbie car onto Kenzie's barbie jeep (Powerwheel)  and apparently I let her wrap it around the axel.  It is less than a month old and we paid close to $300.00 for it.  So today after the battery is charged I am hoping it is okay.  I got a good talking to about that.  I knew that would happen.  But oh well if itworks it is okay.   

Now on to the New Month:  I am trying so hard to have a more positive, less complaining, patienet attitude.   Fingers crossed and need many prayers.   So I got up at 6:14 a.m. and started my day late but somehow I am not to far behind.    Now to get my lazy, fat butt up and get a move on.....

Thanks to everyone for reading my thoughts and I hope you keep reading.  I really need your feedback on how I am doing.  I want to see commments, emails, or links to your sites.   Any helpful hints or anything else is welcome......  Great day to all!!!!!!!!!  N

Oh My Mind Is Working

Why did I not downsixe or organize my Home Management Binder to my liking?  Great question!  I do have one thought.  Instead of starting with the pages and tips on organizedhome.com like I said I would do I just used the divider ideas.  I also for some reason thought I should include every tab even if it do not apply to my family.  So weird of me like I said believe I am OCD.  Also I tried to stick everything I had in one binder, and I have always known I wanted seperate binders.  I added all these things I might or just want to use.  I did not stick to my get rid of it all and start fresh rule. Bad Girl!! 

So since I did so much yesterday.  I did more that I did not add after my last post.  I am on strike today.  I am going to go to the master bed or outside on our porch so my dd(dear daughter) can play if warm enough and I am going to really try to be more organized.  I have to get more strick with my time and break the internet habit.  I will work on that starting Monday.  I do need it for inspiration and to find the pages I do need or will really use. 

Okay back to my new game plan:

1. Find an old box (probably a Luvs diaper box that I have not gotten all the diapers out of)
2. Open ring on binder and neatly stack all pages in box like a filing cabinet.
3. Add any loose papers floating around desk or have been packing with me - except my pages I am rewritting.
4. Admit it is okay and I kind of like some things hand written
5. Do a major delete of saved bookmarks, emails that I have not read or saved in a folder just in case.
6. Then open up flylady.net and organized home.com 
7. Now look at what I really like on these sites and make a list of how I want to add to my binder
8. go through any other sites I might remember or google and find
9. Make a list of only the pages or ideas I want to add to my life, home, and binders.
10. Thursday when at Library class with daughter, print what pages I want to start using first. 

Now I will update this throught the day either edit this or make small posts.  So wish me luck!  And since hubby forgot my birthday today I think I will ask for ink for my printer and a few dividers and page protectors.  BBL 

Another Year Older - Happy Birthday To Me

Today is my birthday!  Welcome another year older and another year I feel I have gotten further from my goals.  But that is okay,  this gives me a chance to rethink, replan, reevaluate, and get remotivated.  Maybe I should have called this the re day LOL!  But I will not spend my day complaining or thinking what might have been.  that will get me no where fast.  But I will do just what I said I will relax, and think how to get out of this rut i have been in for the last few years. 

Today started like any other.  I got up at 5:50 still not when I want but I am getting closer.  Headed for the bathroom to take care of business!  Then picked up my nightstand.  It alway has a bottle, coke can, and usually clothes, toys, and whatever I was writing on the night before.  Sometimes, I even have my dessert plate still there.  I am so naughty!  Okay then bible study....Well you get the point I have shared my Morning Routine with you.  But instead of staying up after hubby left,  I made the baby a bottle and off to bed we went.  My own treat for myself (since I do have to make my own b-day cake and dinner)  now going to enjoy a long hot soak in the tub.  Needless to say not on schedule. 

My darling Husband, (remind me to explain our relationship stat really in a post later) did not even tell me Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!  He knows I put alot of stock into this.  For all of us.  It is the one day in the world that you can claim.  I mean it is your holiday, like presidents day or somethng.  I dont expect it to be a blimp on the scheme of the world.  I do however, expect my husband to remember me.  

Does he work hard? Hell Yes! (left at 7:45 a.m. got off work at 10:30 p.m.)  pretty normal.
Does he provide what we need and want?  Yes and then some.
But come on all I asked for was 2 little words.  I thought maybe he will send me a text before I wake up.  So at 9a.m.  I sent him a text said simply HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

He has made a point all month of reminding me the pair of pink and black KSwiss I got on sale for $55.00 and my Nikie flip flops for $19.99, were my presents  do not expect more. I never dreamed that ment not even reconizing the day.   


Big joke on me.  I believe I stated earlier no complaining earlier.   Well now that it is out of my system.  I will enjoy the rest of the day, outside.  So hope to share some more of my day with you later.  There will not be much to report on my schedule.  I am setting it aside for today.  

Tell me how would you handle this?  I see I have had 176 views!!  Go you for checking me out, I never expected 6 people to show up.   LOL.  Thanks for the support.  I hope tostart getting feed back so I will know more what you want, what you like or do not like. 

Also I hope to still see some of your schedules or cleaning tips...
            LOTS OF LOVE   N
 

Morning and After-Breakfast/Mid Day Routines

So if you have been reading my blog,  (thanks),  I have been talking about my schedules.  As of now 4:40 p.m.  I am up to half through my After-Breakfast/Mid Day Routine.  I will recap with my updated Morning Routine:

• Rise and shine - Get up at 5:00 a.m.  (made it up at 6 today)
• Brush my teeth/wash my face wake up
• Brush my hair
• Straighten up my nightstand (slept in recliner with both kids so straightened up my daughter's pink table this morning)
• MORNING PRAYERS (I have three if interested I can post) - I do this while taking care of above tasks
• Bible Study (goodmorninggirls.org)
• Put Chris's (hubby) clothes in the dryer (de-wrinkles and warms)
• Listen to Music (usually CMT)
• Writ a list of 7-10 thing to do today
• Write a list of kids chores
• Start a food tracker/Body Clutter from flylady.net (need work on this)
• Check calendar ( I check the family, binder, Cozi, and my pocket)
• Fix Cappacciuno
• Start breakfast by 6:30 a.am.
• Set the kitchen table
• Wake Chris up by 6:45 a.m.
• Clean and pack Chris's Dinner Bucket
• Lunch Box Love Note
• Refill ice trays
• Clear off/Wipe Kitchen counters
• Give Children a 2 minute wake up warning
• Wake kids up/Pajamas put away by 7:oo a.m. (dd up at 9 today yeah)
• Kids Morning Prayer
• Start Chris's work truck
• Feed Jax (our master collar breaking dog)
• Mealtime Prayer
• Eat breakfast - Baby bottle by 7:20 a.m.
• Drink orange juice
• Take vitimans and medicines
• Clean calender ( for me to track sobority)
• Kids brush teeth/wash face wake up
• Kids floss and mouthwas
• Wipe kids off
• Brush kids hair
• Change baby's diaper
• Free Play time together - bath together or blocks good options
• Body Electric (exercise)
• Tummy belt
• Drink water
• Make and febreeze beds
• Baby nap 9:00 a.m.
• Read joycemeyer.org/dailydevotional
• Watch Joyce Meyer
• Shower
• Shave
• Wash Hair (MWF)
• Dry self off
• Watch youtube.com
• Moisturize face,hand,body,feet
• deoderant, perfume, bodyspray, babypowders, FDS spray, vasoline
• Clean my ears, nosespray, bellybutton
• Work on Eyebrows (as needed next 3)
• Trim Nosehairs
• Pluck chin  (Hairy Woman, LOL)
• Mouse and Blow Dry hair
• Get dressed to lace-up shoes (flipflops) including: Hair/Face, Brush teeth
• Put teeth in (have dentures)
• Clean glasses
• Wear Jewerly
• Look at posted reminders in bathroom
• Open house blinds, doors, and windows on warm days
• Swish and Swipe the bath
• Empty the Dishwasher(dishdrainer no dishwasher)
• Clean Master Bedroom - PUPA
  Start a load of laundry
• Check control journal
• Sing Songs with children
• Brush dog and cat
• Scoop yard of dog poop
• Change/Clean cat litter
• Dance with kids
• Work on Blog/Vlog
• Eat something if haven't already (Brunch)
• Organize days snacks
• Stroller Walk if nice weather
• Pick up all dirty laundry

This is in my perfect work by 9-10 a.m.  Right now it is done by 12:30 or 1:00 p.m.  The quotations are for example or explaination.  See my first post for more detail.  Now today I got a little more done.   Here is the start of my After Breakfast/Mid Day Routine: (again any times are hope for times, they usually do not happen)

• Clean up breakfast dishes
• Throw out scraps ( to the creek we go for stay animals)
• Keagles
• Load Dishwasher/Wash Dishes  (me by hand by have to not choice)
• Shine Kitchen sink
• Lotion Hands
• Unload Dishes, towel dry, Put up
• Wipe off Kitchen Counters
• Thaw anything needed for Dinner
• 5 minute pick up
• Swithc Laundry
• Room time/Play alone 30-45 minutes
• Make Calls
• 15 minute Daily Mission from flylady
• 15 minutes in Master Bedroom (Changes by day will list in later post)
• Play together- reading time, Hippo tent, List of Ideas from on-line or Buttoned Up's Boredom Buster (can get link if wanted)\
• Wash and Lotion Hands
• Fix lunch - baby bottle and cereal by 12:00
• Change baby's diaper clean up
• Set the Kitchen Table
• Mealtime prayer
• Feed the Family - Including self
• Drink Juice or lemonaide
• Sweep and mop kitchen and entryway
• Pick up/Declutter
• Reboot Laundry
• Take a Break/Relax (MOM TIME!!)
• computer Time! Check e-mails/favorite websites  (today I blogged again) 

Maybe tomorrow I will get farther, if so will update the Mid day list.  For now I love the morning routine I just need to get more focused.  Less youtube and browsing, more makring off what I have done. 

I am off to start supper - Chicken Alfreado with cressant rolls and mashed potatoes and peas.  We had bacon and biscuits for breakfast.  Lunch was leftover sloppy joe on biscuits and leftover baked potato wedges.    If interested in my meal plan or recipies just let me know   Hope everyone has a good night.  I will spen my time working on getting further on my list till hubby comes home.....Good luck on your schedule  and pleas share or give any hints on how to make go smother....

Norma 

Monday Morning Recap

What a wonderful weekend!!  Having my Morning Routnie in place really payed off.  And being able to let go of perfectionism allowed me to be okay with only getting through my morning routine.  I got a lot more family time this weekend than in so long!

Saturday,  my darling husband took our daughter and done a little stock up grocery shopping so I could have a few minuites semi alone and spend quality time with the baby.  He needs to do more father-daughter activities, he just works so much.   I got the baby asleep and picked up the house, then a quick vacuum.  And that left me plenty of time to relax with a show I had recorded last week on DVR.  After they got home it was a fast pupa of the groceries, we had bbq pulled pork sandwiches with our choice of chips.  Also cole slaw for my daughter, it is one of her favorites.  Then Chris braved the attic to put some screen over the air vents up there.  It is a circus act to get up there.  Wish you could have seen us!  Our step ladder we just purchased is still one step to short.  I had the baby in the carrier, my daughter wanting her turn to climb up pulling on my leg, and then me tring to hold weight and balance on the ladder.  Then since it was to short,  I became the human step for my hubby.  But now I feel better knowing no animals can take up house in the attic.  

 Sunday led to a awful wind storm, so another inside day.  Needless to say our 6 month old pit bull decided he is superdog and broke his choke chain!  Is there any way to contain him?  He will dig out of the lot I am told if we do not pull concrete.  Our older neighbor came and told husband.  He then had to go search for him and he has stayed put since.  After breakfast, apple flip,  on Cozi. Pretty good.  It is just an apple peeled and sliced, sautaed.  Then bacon strips pre-cooked, 4 eggs and 2 egg whites with 2tbsp of water and chedder cheese.  bake for 10 min broil for 2.  

Sorry rambled again,  but we had a blanket fort in the living room.  I got to be the sockbombing alien from Klurg.  Yes we are now MarvinMarvin fans.  It was a supper of sloppy joe and baked potato wedges.  If you would like the recipe just let me know.   Guess who made the Sunday menu?  You guessed it our 4yr old and my child-like husband.   

Okay off to finish my morning routine.  I will post about my After Breakfast Routine when I get to try it out today.  New goal for the day,  Complete my After Breakfast Routine.    I will post each routine as I get it written or try it out.  Some things will repeat on the day specific list and the weekly chore, it give me a chance to get to it one way or another.   I will talk more on that when I show it to you.  If I knew how I would make a printable for everything if anyone was interested.  

ttyl,  Norma

Family Fun Day

Last night since it is my birthday weekend, (really Tuesday the 30th), we had a movie night with Netflix.  We watched Hunger Games and I have to say I really got interested in it.  I normaly cannot sit still during a t.v. show, never a whole movie!  Other than potty/diaper breaks I managed to tune the world out and stay focused.  My late nap could have helped..

Needless to say we got up late and have had a slow morning.  Hubby and Makenzie are outside.  The baby is asleep and I am settling in for a nice hot soak in the tub.  As for my Morning Routine, I am working on it at a snail pace.  Even so managed to get up feed, diaper the baby, and make blueberry muffins for breakfast.  All before the rest got up. 

All of my daily routine is finised, will post completed list Monday. I am working on day specific tasks now and then on to weekly cleaning checklist that does not need a day just done in the week if can get to them.  Finally will make out Monthly, Seasonally, and Yearly.  Hubby said deffinatly need to downsize amount of papers in my binder.  He finds it stressful to even see it open.  Says I have a hard time letting things go - especially paper and photos.  I may try to post a pic of how full my binder is. 

Off to enjoy my hot bath and a few minutes totally alone. Its not everyday a gal get the bathroom totally alone!

Have a terrific Family Fun day and dont forget to rest and renew your spirit tomorrow..Just in case do not blog tomorrow....

How did the first day of my New MORNING ROUTINE go?? So far......

Well  I started on my Morning Routine today.  I have added a few things like Joyce Meyer Daily Devotional and watch her broadcast I forgot to put the childrens morning prayer and Brushing the frurry critters (cat and dog), scooping poop out the yard, and cleaning oe just empting the litter box.  I also added a morning stroller/walk with the kids.  Since it is warmer now thought it would break up the day and give extra exercise.  I am still tryng to loose the last of the baby weight! 

But as I sit taking my Suboxone (Yes, I am a recovering drug addict), I just wanted to give an update.  Beside the baby getting up at 6am and my daughter sleeping like a log with numerous attempts to wake her, it went good.  I knew it would not go in line to the letter so I am prepared to back track some or adjust time lines. 

For the first morning in a while, I sat at the table and ate breakfast not rushing!  I also had a normal grown up talk with the hubby while he ate and laced up his boots.  We were not on the computer, laptop, or iphone.  We took time to listen to each other.  No to finish up my morning I am now a little later than I would like.  LOl  story of a SAHM!   Off to get in pre-recorded (thanks Suddenlink for free dvr, hubby's place of employment)  Body Electric.  I have home made 2 pld weights from the hubby.  And I keep them and my Golds Gym tummy wrap in an old Huggies wipe box behind the flat screen in the living room.  Easy access and hid from company.  No one could even see the box if did not know it was there.  Hope to get a shower and a few other tasks done by 9 or 10 at latest.  

Good Luck to all on your Morning Routines.  Hope things go as planned for your day.  Well, as planned as can with sticky finger, baby spit up and unexpected potty messes!!

My New and Improved Morning Routine

Just an update on my earlier post:  After dealing with a teething 6 month old, our pit bull breaking his second collar this week, and a visit from our HANDS worker(I forgot about), I spent most of the day on youtube and various sites looking at schedules, routines, and to-do lists of other SAHMs.  I also removed my daily, weekly, monthly, and other cleaning/schedules from my binder.  I come to you now from under a stack of papers!  But I am reworking what I want or have time to do on certian days of the week, month, etc.  I have what i think is a decent MORNING ROUTINE for my family.  I hope so after spending one day almost only on making this list!  Needless to say looks like a bomb exploded on Prater headquarters.  LOL! 
  But before I begin a mad Pick up and Put away (also have to put my dog back up, I hear him at the back door again!), I wanted to show you what I have come up with .  I may need to add or take something off but will begin trying it out in the morning.

Here it is in rough form:

• Rise and Shine! - Get up at 5:00 a.m.
• Brush my teeth/Wash my face wake up
• Brush my hair
• My Morning Prayers  (I have 3)
• Bible Study (goodmorninggirls.com)
• Put Hubby's clothes in the dryer
• Listen to Music ( normally country on cmt)
• Write a list of 7-10 things to-do today
• Write a list of chores for children (just my daughter for now)
• Start my food tracker
• Check calender for appointmenst or activities
• Make cappacuino
• Start breakfast by 6:30 a.m.
• Wake Hubby up for work by 6:45 a.m. (this usually takes till 7:00)
• Clean and Pack Hubby's dinner bucket
• Write a Lunch box love note and put in
• Refill the Ice Trays
• Clear off/Wipe Kitchen counter
• Give a 2 minute warning to the children to wake up
• Wake children up/pajamas away by 7:10a.m. 
• Start Hubby's work truck and take out his bucket
• Feed Jax (previous mentioned dog)
• Eat Breakfast - Give baby bottle by 7:30 a.m.
• Drink orange juice
• Take vitimans and medications
• Hubby leave for work 8:00 a.m
• Children brush teeth/wash face to wake up( mine is listed twice for each child)
• Children floss and mouthwash (only daughter right now)
• Wipe Children off(listed twice)
• Brush Children's hair (also twice)
• Change baby's diaper
• Free Play time together
• Body Electric (exercise)
• Put on my tummy belt/wrap from Gold's Gym (Wal-mart)
• Drink water(listed for each of us)
• Make and Febreeze Beds (each name listed for their beds)
• Shower
• Shave
• Wash and condition my hair  (M,W, F)
• Dry off
• Moisturize face, hand, body, and feet
• Deoderant, Perfume, Body Spray, FDS spray, Baby Powders, and Vasoline
• Get dressed to lace up shoes, including hair/face, brush teeth
• Look at posted reminders in Bathroom
• Swish and Swipe
• Empty the dishdrainer (not blessed with a dishwasher, so sad)
• Clean Master Bedroom (PUPA)
• Start a load of Laundry (a Load a day keeps CHAOS away)
• Check my control journal/home management binder
• Play with kids (sing songs)
• Eat something if haven't already (Brunch usually for all) - Baby a snack byt 10:00 a.m.

This is just a rough draft with some added explinations for anyone who reads this.  I hope it is helpful in making someone elses morning go easier.  My daughter starts preschool this August so I am working on getting her in bed and up earlier.  Then I will have to add her lunch and driving her to school. But if I can get in the habit of sticking with this it should be easy to tweak a few times. 

Next I hope to have an AFTER BREAKFAST ROUTINE ,  It may be tomorrow because I deffinatly hav to think about supper and picking up no daily cleaning tasks today.  I hope to have that list and my flylady zones in place by Monday.  I will also share all my schedules/routines as I go. 

If you have any tasks or chores you do not see on mine please list them below...I would love to know what you think of my Morning Routine.  I would also be interested in seeing how you start your day.  You could inspire me to go a total different way! 

how to reorganize me? One step in the right direction, I hope!

Yesterday I did make my whats in my diaper bag video and posted on youtube.com  Not the best by far, but so proud I had the courage to go through with it.  I havent gotton any views yet.  Hope that changes soon and I can make a plan on what and when to blog or vlog.  Right now this is more just a diary of sorts. A place for me to ramble and hopefully one day have friends to help guide me in my glorious journey of life.  

So, previously I have mentioned my struggling with orgazination, time management, religion, and well everything.  I did not have role models growing up.  My mom is an alocholic, my father a drug addict.  He was physically and mentally abusive, to me and my mother and there was sexual abuse.  Needless to say not the best start.  But after a terrible round of my own  with addiction and loosing 4 wonderful children, I have made a life change.  About 6 years ago, I started seeing a friend from childhood.  We both had our own demons and were just lonely and looking for company. By some miricle we met that night and stayed together almost every day and night since.  He got a job, we went from a run down trailor with no utilities to a home we own and a good vechicle.  We have 2 perfect children of our own and he does anything I need for support.  He saved me.  And God gave me my angles to keep me on course. 

Sorry I am rambling and off topic.  The point I wanted to make is I never had reason to organize, or clean.  Now I have tons of reasons to.  But I just can't get on a schedule to suit our life.  I am very OCD on some things I like to do them in order and perferrably about the same day and time.  But I am trying to combine to many things and getting further behind.  I need a good routine.  flylady.net is great!  Just to vauge in some areas. I like detailed lists from wheter to bath or shower to brushing my teeth to everything in the room that I should clean. I have more zones  and do not know how to fit them into her system.  I have not checked my email in a week for not wanting to deal with all the sites and blogs I have subscribed to. 

My attempt at a home management binder has cost me 3 rounds of ink and more wasted hours and paper than I am proud to admit.  And I still am not using it or satified with it.  I have a 3 inch binder I believe that I found in the mess the previous home owners left.  It will not close and I honestly do not use any of it now.  I need to hit delete on my lists, stop looking at sites and blogs, and throw away everything that I can get back easily if want.  I am pretty happy with my divided sections but not the content. 

Now I see that to really enjoy my home and my family I have to figure this out.  I need to start with one idea or habit at a time.  I will revisit flylady today and the babysteps.  I know it is on the web and I do not need to copy every word or email by hand and keep it.  On the other hand my OCD will want to write every word I see and check it off. 

So I think I have typed myself into my first true challenge!  I need to reorganize me.  My binder, my routine, and realize if it is on the web I will find it back if need to.   So how to start?  I will delete, trash, get rid of  all I can.  I will start back over.  Hopefully for the last time.  I have to do this for my family and myself.   I have a clean home but I need to do it more effecient with less yelling.  I need to put more time into my children instead of using the tv as a babysitter.  I have to find activities to meet people instead of sitting here alone and depressed. 

My biggest challenge is ink and lack of funds to purchase more.  If only I had a magic ink fairy to help.  And a way to have time alone to completely concentrate on these things.   But I will make all the pages I can, best as I can by hand. 

How do I keep this fire under my bum lit?  I need encouragement tips and ideas.  I basically need someone to hold my hand!  Any volunteers?    Time to get off here and get to it.  First up bath, dress, and start getting rid of things.  Then 15 min decluttering, and 15 min researching.  There are a few sites and blogs I really like.  I will post them later and give credit to all.  But I need to stick with just clearing off computer and bookmarks on it.  Listing where and what I like and finding a way to combine them in my journey...Wish me luck!!  Will try to give pics to show progress and how terrible I am. 

Ready to tackle blogging and vlogging.....I think?

Not sure what happened...I had started a blog on here about a month ago, my nexus tablet broke(again), and when I decided to check on my laptop it was deleted!  So I am looking at this as a fresh strat to blogging.  Yesterday I also posted my first to videos on youtube...I really need all the advice on how to blog and vlog I can find...Wish me luck and send me tips, tricks, and any help you can....

So I am reworking my schedule, my home control binder, and on BabyStep9 (been there a minute).  I keep getting side tracked with all the stuff I see on other sites, blogs, and vlogs.  So I have decided to stick with the Flylady.net for my cleaning, I hope it works this time.  I have been trying since November and until we moved in February it went pretty good.  For my Home Management Binder I am using organizedhome.com for a jumping off point.  Right now my binder is a 3 inch binder that will not close!  I used the divider and suggestions for what to put in those from organizedhome.com.  Now to pair down and re-evaluate if I really need what I have.  Since I am out of ink right now and money is tight I am hand writting all the suggested printable pages for both sites also.  I will try to post pictures and describe in a future blog.  But not sure how. 

My binder will be a vlog soon and I am going to do a what's in my diaper bag vlog later today.  Wow!!   I have said alot and not even introduced myself...!!  Here you go...

My name is Norma.  I am a 32 yr old stayathomemom, with 2 beautiful children. My daughter is 4 and my precious baby son is 6 months in two days.  We bought our first home on Valentines Day this year and moved in the next day.  I have become obsessed with how to be a better christian, wife, and mother.   I need all I can find on these topics.  Please share!!  I have recently decided to try to find a way to work from home  but do not know what to trust and where to start with no start up money.  

Well if you want or need any more info jusat ask.  The baby is crying and my girl is wanting to bath....More soon if I can figure it all out right   THANKS FOR READING!!!!